When you have a child, people will try to help by giving their advice. Some would said can start even at 1 year old, some said no need to rush and some who is NOT a mother yet even more funny when they are trying to talk on behalf of my son such as “it is hot wearing diaper”, “ I know how to pee but since you give diaper then I can become lazy”. I do not know about you but I got really fed up when a non-mother trying to think that she knows everything on taking care of baby simply she has help her mother to babysit other people’s child. Wait until she become mother, then she shall understand my situation!
I think that the most important of all is whether we are ready or not before we look for sign if our child is ready. When my elder son turn 2 years old, I think I should toilet train him but I simply cannot accept the fact that he will be urinating and making unpleasant smelling ‘cake’ every now and then everywhere.
The first thing I ask my maid to do was to wrap all the furniture in the house with plastic bag because I hate to think that the smell of urine which will stand inside my furniture. My son was without diaper for 3 days during the daytime and then we give up as we fail to get him to urine in the toilet and he simply doesn’t understand that.
A month has passed and my maid has left as she already finished her two years contract. My new maid who has 4 children successfully gave me the idea that it is not a scary process to toilet train a child. When my son urine on the floor, she just clean it up and give him a clean pant to wear. She cleans up every piece of furniture which my son urine on it patiently and without any complaint. On and off she will ask him if he would like to “shee-shee” or “berak”. She is also know how to catch a child impression or behavior before he ‘pee’ or ‘poo’.
Then suddenly one day my son knows how to said “Berak” and when we put him on the toilet bowl he has done his bowel movement. He understands that he need to ‘poo’ before he understands the feeling that he need to pee. From that day onward he will make “cake” inside the toilet and if he accidentally get his pant dirty, he will said “Eeeegeee”. Eventually he will say “Berak” no matter he need to ‘pee’ or to ‘poo’.
Only after 6 months of training, he can distinguish between ‘pee pee’ and ‘poo poo’.
I’m not qualifying to give any advice as I’m a ‘panic’ mother but what I can said is that we do not need to feel stressful to toilet train our child simply because some dick tom and harry said you need to do it immediately. Enjoy your motherhood! And me too!
